A girl who is born with good looks gets treated differently from the girls who are born with what we call either, average society standards or below standard looks. A girl with good looks is given more attention, particularly from guys, based simply on her looks. Because of this, guys want to do anything possible to get her. They value her and see her as a perfect life time partner, basing this decision simply on her looks.
Her looks intimidates the other girls. This makes the rest of them feel that good looks hold more value and just maybe, makes you superior than the rest. You see this in the manner in which they act towards her, complimenting her on her looks, not forgetting how the men do this oh so regularly. Because of these compliments, she starts to believe that she is valuable, which I believe is just delusional!
The most common compliment a girl with good looks gets is: you’re “beautiful“. And my problem lies in this compliment, because the question now becomes, what is beauty? And is beauty really based on good looks? And what’s the difference between beauty and being pretty?
This is how I define pretty:
Women who are born with good looks and are attractive without truly being beautiful.
This is how I define beauty:
a combination of principles and qualities that sum up her true character, such as kindness, humility, honesty and integrity…how she carries herself internally and externally.
Based on these two definitions, i personally don’t compliment a very good looking woman on her looks, simply because she was born with these looks. She didn’t have to work hard for it, just as a child receiving inheritance from her rich parents. And it amazes me on how we can put value on something that happens by default, not molded by hard work.
Unlike character, where I believe that…herein lies a woman’s beauty. This is something I can complement a woman on, because a lot of time and dedication was put in the development of her character, and this is what is valuable. Yes, we all want a woman who looks good, and is just eye-catching, but prettiness is a preference of choice.
I do not compliment a good looking woman by telling her she is beautiful unless…I do so witnessing her character. If she is blessed with good looks then pretty she is.
YOUR LOOKS IS WHAT MAKES YOU PRETTY, NOT BEAUTIFUL!
Beauty is truly shaped from the inside and presented out through, how a woman treats other people in small or big positions, from security guards, waiters to people of status. The woman who possesses beauty possesses it holistically, that is why she will pamper herself to look good, even if she may or may not have been born with good looks. But, she makes an effort to look good. Therefore there is a big difference between:
1) a girl with good looks and
2) a beautiful girl that’s looking good.
My point is that it’s possible to have a woman born with good looks to be beautiful, but it’s not her looks that makes her beautiful. The character of a women is what we should complement women on, born with good looks or not, because here within lies her beauty!!